The Starters Dilemma: Is it just me or is everyone feeling this way? I am talking about this: You are excited and pumped to finally get started with your own business/venture. Finally, you finished your degree and you have now more free time than ever. Or maybe you quit the job or maybe something else.
So this is the scenario: you have time and want start something, but what? You have many ideas, so much creativity. How about this website that does this amazing thing? Or how about I sell my own T-shirts because I can wear them too. You even start to research and develop something tiny. It’s a beginning.
But then doubt kicks in and your once so appealing idea is now still nice but something else is even better. Then rinse and repeat. Why is this starting and committing so hard?
I call it the starters dilemma and the issue is with the following items: Commitment and Freedom.
This is an exciting time. All the doors are open to you. In this stage you can pick anything. You are not forced into any single thing. Picking something and staying with it results in loss of freedom and we as humans are loss averse. We don’t like to lose the freedom we currently have. So we choose nothing and continue to dream about it.
The other major issue is that once your freedom is lost, you think that all other opportunities will vanish. That is mostly not the case, but it still feels this way.
This goes hand in hand with the previous point. To commit to something means to work on it seriously and not to back down. Most of us are afraid of commitment, because of possible failure the possible result in loss. Prior to committing something, there is no really downside. You cannot fail in something that you didn’t commit to. For example, if you are pursuing sports then pain through failure is relative small, you could play something else and choose another discipline. But once you pick a discipline like basketball for example, you are constantly compared and faced with failure to perform. The question could arise if that was a proper choice.
What can we do about it?
Realize that pursuing one thing is not losing freedom. It is not closing all the other doors. It is rather opening a door with many other doors behind it. This is the absurd reality; by commitment you are not losing out on possibilities, rather you open up yourself to even more than you could imagine.
And remember, an opened door can be closed again. We make poor choices all the time, but the poorest choice would be not to choose anything. Starting a business is better than dreaming about one. And even in the case of failure, you learn valuable lessons, expand your network or get closer to the truth (whatever that might be).
Action beats inaction… So why not start now?
Until next time.